Guiding Principles to Peace and Confidence
I offer you 5 principles that I have learned and held close over the last 3 years. These ideas have helped me to find genuine peace and confidence in my life. I don’t want you to think that I am never unhappy or afraid. I still face challenges on a daily basis. The difference is that before I felt trapped and stuck. Today I find peace and confidence knowing that I have the power and ability to face fear and continue moving forward.
1. Acknowledgement
Start by focusing on what went right or you did right. Keep a journal, start a blog, write in a notebook, or simply say a list out-loud. What would you say to a friend that needed extra support or his/her spirits lifted? Say THAT to yourself.
2. Gratitude
Practice saying thank you when others help you or offer a compliment. Try to do this without an excuse, explanation, or return compliment. Just graciously accept and enjoy the feeling.
At the end of each day write down 5 things you are grateful for. If things are going that bad, you can start with gratitude for the pen and paper to write the list… you’ll find more things the more you do it.
3. Get Quiet; Get Clear; Visualize
Close your eyes and spend time with the vision of who you want to be and the world that you would like to attract. Notice how you feel and what you hear, see, and even smell. Record your vision in some way. You can write it down, tape record, or draw a picture. You may just start by describing your ideal week.
4. Put Yourself First
YOU are the most important and influential person in your life. You spend more time with YOU than anyone else. You know YOU better than any person. Without YOU, you do not exist. How would you value someone’s time that you respected and held in high regard? Try scheduling your time that way. Don’t be afraid to say no to others, if they demand too much of your time.
5. Acceptance; Release Attachment
Imagine yourself in control of your current situation. Both the good and the bad are there because you decided it would be that way. Play with the idea that you are perfect and experiencing everything perfectly. That is to say, that you are getting exactly what you need out of life right now. It is hard to be a victim with this perspective. This idea will help you to move forward, past fear. It allows you to say “What’s the worse thing that could happen if I just do______? Well, I could live with that, so it’s worth moving forward from here.”
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
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5 Steps to Balance a Busy Schedule
5 Steps to Balance a Busy Schedule
Understand that balance is not necessarily having as much free time as possible so that we do not have to work. It is also not the idea of spending an equal amount of time in each part of our lives. Balance is when we are able to spend time on what is necessary to be happy (ie spend time with family, go to the beach, etc.) while at the same time making time for what is necessary to survive (ie earn money for food, pay bills, etc.). If we are balanced we will spend our time in such a way where we do not feel deprived of either happiness or our basic survival needs.
1. Set aside and “Hour of Power” each week.
Simply set aside an hour each week that you will work on planning your schedule. During that time you will figure out exactly how everything will fit together. This will prevent you from double booking and forgetting important events.
2. Have a written schedule that is accessible.
Write your schedule in a planner, on your computer, a wall calendar, or a sheet of paper. The important thing is that you keep it in a place that allows you to see it regularly. Ideally, you would want to look at it no less than twice a day. This will give you permission to say “NO” or “YES” as new tasks spring up on you because you will already have a schedule.
3. Decide your “Big Rocks”
What are the top 10 things that must get done this week? Decide them and put those in your schedule first, BEFORE you put anything else. Realize this may require you to allow yourself to schedule less important things for another time or another week. Often what frustrates us most about how we spend our time is not that we didn’t get EVERYTHING done, but that we didn’t get to the few things we REALLY WANTED to accomplish. Putting the most important tasks first allows you to make what you really want for happiness and need for survival a priority.
4. Spend time emotionally walking through your schedule.
You will find that if you have an emotional attachment to the schedule, you are less likely to blow it off. Look at each day and then close your eyes and picture how you will feel as you are getting these done. Really get into how it will feel to get everything done and what each individual event will be like.
5. Have Goals
It helps to make a schedule if you are looking to work beyond just this week. Now the weekly schedule has the purpose of getting us closer to our monthly or yearly goals. Have professional, spiritual, family, and financial goals. Find ways to measure these goals so you can break them down into bench marks. At your hour of power each week ask, “What can I put into my schedule this week that will bring me closer to reaching this goal.”
Understand that balance is not necessarily having as much free time as possible so that we do not have to work. It is also not the idea of spending an equal amount of time in each part of our lives. Balance is when we are able to spend time on what is necessary to be happy (ie spend time with family, go to the beach, etc.) while at the same time making time for what is necessary to survive (ie earn money for food, pay bills, etc.). If we are balanced we will spend our time in such a way where we do not feel deprived of either happiness or our basic survival needs.
1. Set aside and “Hour of Power” each week.
Simply set aside an hour each week that you will work on planning your schedule. During that time you will figure out exactly how everything will fit together. This will prevent you from double booking and forgetting important events.
2. Have a written schedule that is accessible.
Write your schedule in a planner, on your computer, a wall calendar, or a sheet of paper. The important thing is that you keep it in a place that allows you to see it regularly. Ideally, you would want to look at it no less than twice a day. This will give you permission to say “NO” or “YES” as new tasks spring up on you because you will already have a schedule.
3. Decide your “Big Rocks”
What are the top 10 things that must get done this week? Decide them and put those in your schedule first, BEFORE you put anything else. Realize this may require you to allow yourself to schedule less important things for another time or another week. Often what frustrates us most about how we spend our time is not that we didn’t get EVERYTHING done, but that we didn’t get to the few things we REALLY WANTED to accomplish. Putting the most important tasks first allows you to make what you really want for happiness and need for survival a priority.
4. Spend time emotionally walking through your schedule.
You will find that if you have an emotional attachment to the schedule, you are less likely to blow it off. Look at each day and then close your eyes and picture how you will feel as you are getting these done. Really get into how it will feel to get everything done and what each individual event will be like.
5. Have Goals
It helps to make a schedule if you are looking to work beyond just this week. Now the weekly schedule has the purpose of getting us closer to our monthly or yearly goals. Have professional, spiritual, family, and financial goals. Find ways to measure these goals so you can break them down into bench marks. At your hour of power each week ask, “What can I put into my schedule this week that will bring me closer to reaching this goal.”
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